Where veterinary medicine and motherhood collide

DrVetMom, DVM

DrVetMom, DVM

where veterinary medicine and motherhood collide

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Ten useful websites for pet owners

Ten useful websites for pet owners

*This post contains affiliate links. Having a pet can be a daunting task. There is so much information available at our fingertips, it can all be a bit overwhelming. Even as a veterinarian, it’s easy to experience information overload when I type pet-related phrases into […]

Promises from your vet

Promises from your vet

*This post contains affiliate links. The field of veterinary medicine has changed drastically in recent decades. Costs of education and practicing have skyrocketed, while prices for services have remained nearly unchanged. We are expected to practice at the same quality of medicine as our MD counterparts, but […]

Work-life fail

Work-life fail

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Today was tough. Nothing about it was especially hard, but it was tough all the same. All of my patients are alive and well, and I FINALLY caught up on all my charts for the week (and a few from last week). I didn’t have to put any animals to sleep, and even had a pretty critical case turn out wonderfully. Still, it was tough. Today, the veterinarian had a great day, but the mommy failed miserably.

Today, the (career girl) had a great day, but the mommy failed…

I woke long before the sun with my 8-month-old. I spent some quality time (packing the toddler’s lunch, letting the dogs out, feeding the dogs, changing diapers) with him before Daddy and the 3-year-old woke up an hour and a half later. Daddy parted with kisses and hugs for all, and I got to spend a half hour with both kids (breakfast, getting dressed, toddler bathroom routine) before the nanny arrived and it was time to leave for work.

We weren’t especially busy today, but busy enough to have to work through lunch (again), and long into the afternoon. Even after the office closed at 6 pm, all the other employees clocked out and locked me in, and the phones were silenced for the night. I saw my last patient for the day at about 5:40 pm, made a few phone calls (all positive news, yay!), then settled down to catch up on writing in files. Finally, after 7pm, I finished my last chart, locked up and headed home after a 10.5 hour day.

My amazing husband had already cooked dinner and fed the kids, and they were all cuddled on the couch watching Moana. It was 7:30 by now, and getting close to bedtime. I nursed my son as I ate my cold dinner and comforted my daughter (her tummy was hurting).

Within an hour of my arrival, she was ready for bed. My son was asleep in my arms. He woke when I rose from the couch to (God forbid) use the bathroom. I brought him with me anyway. Then I handed him off and headed upstairs with my daughter. We started our bedtime routine, then the baby joined us, and they were both asleep just after 9 pm.

Even rising early with the boy, I only managed to get in four hours with him today. Three  hours with my daughter, who actually understands a bit. I know that’s probably more than a lot of working moms get, and most days I’m pretty good at counting my blessings. But, today it was tough. Today, I failed. Work won, and my family suffered for it. They won’t remember, but I will.

I read a quote by Annabel Crabb a while back that struck a chord with me. She said “The obligation for working mothers is a very precise one: the feeling that one ought to work as if one did not have children, while raising one’s children as if one did not have a job.” This. Is. So. True.

Tomorrow, I’ll do better. Tomorrow, I’ll be present. Tomorrow, I’ll be MOM.

 

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6 tips to get along better with your teenager

6 tips to get along better with your teenager

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Stop saying you “can’t wait” – you CAN

Stop saying you “can’t wait” – you CAN

*This post contains affiliate links. Before I had kids, I would comment frequently that I “can’t wait” to do something. “I can’t wait until this weekend”, “I can’t wait to see you”, “I can’t wait until your baby is walking/talking/etc…” I hear it all the […]

Family albums – who has time for them?

Family albums – who has time for them?

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Some women have it all together. They can keep an immaculate home, have well-rounded, clean and polite children, a healthy marriage, and a productive work environment. Some of them even manage to work out every day, do arts-and-crafts with their kids, and have adorable baby books and photo albums on the coffee table. You know these ladies. You’re friends with them, but you are secretly (or not so secretly) jealous of all they seem to accomplish in a day. I am not one of these women, as much as I wish I was.

My kids are (semi) clean, usually very polite, and I’d say they are about as “well-rounded” as most kids we’ve met. I love my husband, and I’m happy to say he still seems to adore me as much as he did when we first met. That’s pretty much where it ends. My house is a constant wreck, and some days I feel like I’d need to stay an extra 3 hours at work just to catch up. I can usually get a handle on the issues at work, but dang that messy house. And forget about all the “other stuff” like making yearly photo albums, or at the very least, a baby book for my little ones.



Don’t get me wrong, I take the photos. I even go so far as to post the photos to my social media pages to share with my family and friends. That’s not the issue. My phone and hard drive are LOADED with thousands of photos of my family. The content is there. The desire is there. The funds are hit-or-miss. Maybe it’s the motivation that’s lacking.

Maybe it’s not the amount of time that’s the problem. Maybe it’s the time-manager.

Like most people I know, I complain that I don’t have enough time to do this or that. “If only I had more time, I’d get it all done”. Then, I’ll catch myself on Facebook, Instagram, or the biggest offender, Pinterest. Time-suckers. So, maybe it’s not the amount of time that’s the problem. Maybe it’s the time-manager. Either way, if I lost my phone and external hard drive, I would have very little photographic evidence that my children and husband exist.

If I lost my phone and external hard drive, I would have very little photographic evidence that my…

Then, one day, as I was scrolling through my Instagram feed (ha,ha), I came across an ad for Chatbooks. This. This was the answer I had been waiting for! With very little effort (or money) on my part, I can get all of my favorite photos printed into adorable little books (60 pages/photos each) and shipped to me! I can make the changes I want to make fairly easily (if I don’t want a photo of last night’s dinner in my family album), right from my phone or computer, and the captions print with the photos. At this time, they are just $8-15/book (depending on soft vs. hard cover), so I figured I can budget $15/month and get a little gift to myself in the mail every month.

Of course, this won’t work for everyone. I’m a sharer, so my Instagram or Facebook feed usually contains all the content I would need already. If you’re a more private person, this isn’t for you. However,  there are now SO many apps and programs available for creating easy, gorgeous and fast albums. It’s just a matter of finding one that works for your liefstyle. If you’ve found one that works for your family,  please share in the comments!

 

Also, I’m not affiliated with or paid by Chatbooks.

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